english speaking mama needs tips...

[annawahlgren]

Det låter bra. Misströsta inte Du har rätt inställning - barnet är gjort av kött och blod som alla andra små barn (och människor) och behöver sin sömn. Sedan är det en bit kvar på Attityden - och den tror jag faktiskt du kan läsa dig till. Peppa dig till

Om nu din man är sakligare än du - just nu i alla fall när hans självförtroende fått sig en bra skjuts - kanske du skulle överlåta två eller tre nätter åt honom. Och ta dina kvarvarande orosvargar med dig och lämna huset Du kan komma tillbaka sedan och skörda frukterna. Och för honom skulle det underlätta, liksom för lilla älskligen, att få vila från din oro, din gamla (obefogade) fruktan.

Tack för varma ord. Jag är så glad över din klarsynthet och goda vilja för lilla barnet

[stellasmama]

little stella is getting a really bad rash on her body from what we and bvc believes is from bathing too much. our doctor recommended that we bathe her twice a week instead and give her plenty of lotion. so tonight we left out the nightly routine of bath because the skin is just so irritated by bath. Stella obviously didn't like the change in the routine when we skipped the bath and went directly to brushing the teeth and getting into jammies before playing in mommy's bed with mommy and daddy then draw the shade, good night sleep tight in her own bed just like always. she went to sleep fine, but then woke up 45 minutes later and kept us going with the reminders for an HOUR! I've been re reading everything, even decided I MUST buy the book tonight, since we are doing something wrong and it's easier to watch the dvd and figure out our mistakes from that. She has been soo good since I last talked here. She hasn't even faught me going to sleep lately!! She would lay right down and quiet. so proud of her for that.
:?:Can a bath taken out of her routine be so important to her? can it cause this much confusion and become an hour long work of waiting/mantra/reminding? and how do incorporate a bath twice a week without it being her nightly routine? Am I giving her too many 4 verse mantras? Should they all only be one verse reminders?

[annawahlgren]

Can a bath taken out of her routine be so important to her? can it cause this much confusion and become an hour long work of waiting/mantra/reminding?

Yes, it can.

She is extremely busy learning what goes, what counts, how things should be.

Until she's got her good nights, I suggest you don't change anything but give her recognizable days (and nights).

Of course, she should have her daily lovely baths, as part of fun and of her sweet nightly routine. If you worry about dry skin, just smear her

I'd like you to understand that either you listen to those child experts who cannot help little Stella to sleep all night, or, you listen to the Sova hela natten-cure, which can do it... The choice is yours

[stellasmama]

after receiving the book with the dvd I think it finally clicked in my head and I somehow got all the confidence I needed and assurance that was remaining in our work. I think it was something that you said in the book that unless you understand why the cure works you wont succeed. And I saw from the dvd that I was in fact doing all the right things. That little question in the back of my head "Am I doing it right?" is no longer there. And we have succeeded in the nightly process thanks to all the hard work and confirmation. The only thing remaining is the vargtimmar questions which I know will pass soon.
Everything makes so much sense now that the light bulb turned on. I can even see how other things in her life also need my reassurance for her to feel like she is in a safe place. Once I got that everything else just slipped into place.
I used to be the one that said Stella was special and she's not like all other babies, those methods for sleep might work for other babies but not Stella because she had colic and we traveled so much during her life and she has such a strong will and bad temper... all of that was little excuses to leave open the door for us to fail. Now that I don't need those excuses anymore she is finally getting the 14½ hours of sleep she needs!!
I have to say that I faught it for a long time thinking I was being honest with myself but I was in fact holding her back. I needed the dvd to SEE that I was doing it right. It makes me want to reccommend this method to every parent we pass on the street!
Thank you and blessings to your "klokt" attitude!

[annawahlgren]

[quote="stellasmama"]
I used to be the one that said Stella was special and she's not like all other babies, those methods for sleep might work for other babies but not Stella because----/quote]

Vad glad jag blir. Och vad glad lilla Stella blir

"It makes me want to reccommend this method to every parent we pass on the street! " Ja - gör det

Varje litet barn som får sova så gott och får sin aptit och sina krafter och sin fulla glädje över att finnas till, utvecklas och växa i frihet, gör världen ett bra stycke vackrare.

Och ger mening åt mitt liv och min gärning.

Pussa henne på lilla näsan från mig

[Fjällfolket]

ÅH!

StellasMama

You should be so proud of yourself...

Jag har följt din tråd, läst, funderat och hoppats.
Och NU..
DU är så BRA =D> \:D/

Grattis till Ert nya liv

Kram!
/Fjällmor

[stellasmama]

Hi everyone again, Stella has been really good and I'm glad for the kur. I wonder though something new she's doing. Playing when I put her in bed. Like always I'll get her in there and give her the mantra which now ends in her laying in bed just talking to herself. Sometimes she'll stand up and play or play laying there but either way I don't go in there, just remind her. I am not sure if this is right and if I should go back in and lay her down and insist that she goes to sleep. This is becoming a habit for her and she'll wake up early from her naps and play without me hearing her and I wont realise she's playing until I happen to pass the door and hear her talking to herself. She's getting cranky in the day time so I am assuming she's not sleeping the whole time. What should I do in these situations? She's been so good at sleeping 11 hours straight at night, even if that means I have to wake up at 6am. And she was so good at sleeping her naps but now she seems to be liking the bed so much she wants to play there. This is all new to me and I know in the book it says it's not agains the rules for her to get up in the bed when I leave but to not let her be really sad. She's not sad though, she's just playing. ??? Is her bedtime suddenly too early and are her naps off now that's she's a little older from when we started the cure a month ago? She just turned 9 months.
Here's what her schedule has been and has been working for a couple weeks now.
6.00 wake and nurse
7.30 breakfast
9.00 - 10.30 nap
11.00 lunch
13.00 - 14.30 nap
14.30 snack
18.00 dinner
18.30 bad/nurse
19.00 bed

PS. I'd like to sleep in until 7 or 7.30 but wont change the schedule until I know what to do with the whole schedule first.
Thanks for help

[annawahlgren]

Don't do anything That's my simple advice.

She feels stronger and happier than perhaps ever before, thanks to her good sleeping habits.

So enjoy - both of you, and all of you!

As is repeatedly said in the book:

Det viktigaste är inte att hon sover varje minut hon "ska". Det viktigaste är att hon har förutsättningarna

Så ge henne dem, håll tiderna och ändra ingenting ännu

[stellasmama]

that's good to know
like tonight I put her to bed at 7:10 (we were a little late tonight due to a big party outside today, big fun for her) and she just played in her bed and put herself to sleep at about 7:50. I assume that was the time since I no longer heard her playing. But anyway that's almost an hour after her normal bed time. I suppose she has the same problem as me and can't fall asleep on command
But I was hoping she'd fall asleep closer to 7:10 when she went down.
I just don't like seeing her get cranky or "mamig" (is that what you say?) when she's not sleeping her 14 hours a day. And more like 13 or even less. I don't know since I'm trusting her that she's sleeping and leave her alone. I even go down to do the laundry without worry! Nothing I could ever have done before!
I will not bother her though, what is great is that she's not fighting me anymore to go to bed but enjoys her bed. We were striving for that and now that we have it I got confused! HA!
Thanks Anna for your as always wise answer and so speedy!

[annawahlgren]

Tack för varma ord

Du kan alltid lägga henne en halvtimme tidigare på kvällen, om du misstänker att hon får för lite sömn. Det märker hon inte, och det påverkar inte morgnarna (annat än möjligen positivt).

Annars säger jag bara - ENJOY

[stellasmama]

yes, she's a good little girl. put herself to sleep at nap time at 9 I just put her in her bed and gave her 1 mantra and left her to get herself in the position she chooses and fall asleep. She did of course
I can try putting her to bed half hour earlier tonight if she's super tired. Thank you again for your constant support. Before the SHN we lived in kaos, now we live in peace, until she starts walking and that's a whole new world of fun to deal with.

I have a different question now. I'd like to start weening her to välling during the day so Pappa can be with her and give me days off this summer. She normally nurses 2 - 3 times a day normally when she wakes up and when she goes to sleep at night and maybe an after lunch slurk. What is the best approach to weening her and what kind of välling is appropriate to her. We've tried giving her välling before and she'll drink about 50 - 60 ml. Is that normal? How much välling does she need per day? Välling isn't anything I know about since it's mostly Swedish.

[annawahlgren]

Hur gammal är hon nu

Jag föreslår att du ställer din fråga om maten (vällingen) på forumet "Mat, mage och barnakropp".

Om jag vore du skulle jag inskränka amningen till morgon och kväll - nattslurken - och på så vis göra dagarna "fria".

Tack för dina varma ord Börjar inte omgivningen avundas er nu