Thanks for your replies, I actually feel like I hav the day feeds under control. I can even put him to bed awake, if 2 hours have passed, and I need to- this little boy becomes very cranky if he stays up too long... Which brings me to my next question: nights...
I try to keep the night feeds shorter, about 20-30 min, but it is impossible! What happens is this: he wakes up, I feed him breast 1 until he breaks. I try to burp him and I put him back to breast 1 and burp again when he brake. Then change and straight to breast 2. This is when it gets complicated... About 20 min have passed now, but he still wants to eat, so of course I let him. Until this time his eyes have been closed and he's been sort of eating in his sleep, but during the change or when I give him the second breast- hell brakes loose!
He wakes up from the flowing about of milk, he drinks and aborts very quickly, SCREAMS, twitching his legs as in cramps. I burp him, he continues drinking, big flow, but he screams again as if he didn't eat for days! His belly is clearly in pain, but no burping, feeding, belly massaging seams to help. Sometimes it takes him 3-4 hours to stop the screaming and twitching, and you can imagine other factors conributing after so long too... Over tiredness, in need of a new diaper, very tired mum loosing it! Of course he collaps from tiredness when he finally falls asleep, and then he often wakes up again after 45 min.
I should mention 2 things that might be a reason for this night behaviour, even though the reasons should also apply to the days and it don't...
1. I'm doing all this with ONE arm! I'm pretty sure I can't burp him properly for example. I'm also very clumsy with him. Head falls here and there, arms falls out since he is being thrown around like a ragdoll... I can't hold him in a tight package or hardly change him... When I burp him, I have go throw him up on my right shoulder, hold him as tight as possible with my neck and the pat his but with my right hand... Is this the reason he's got cramps??
I also eat 4-5 g of paracetamol since 3 weeks back forthe pain in my arm... I don't think it goes in to breastmilk, but maybe it contributes?
So, here is the problem: if I miraculously make him sleep after 20 min, he wakes up after about 1 hour and I have a "one feed per hour" race all night through... If I let him eat for 2 hours, it's very likely he will get cranky and overtired, plus the "cramping" or whatever it is, starts and we stay up for hours, crying because lack of sleep- both of us!
I give him baby fennel drops for the cramps, it's the only thing I can find here. Maybe I'll have to import the semper one from Sweden...
Help, help, help !! None of us is getting the sleep we need, and we need it desperately for our older daughter, otherwise she will soon also start having bad nights... It's beginning already
